I needed to reshape my life. I developed bad habits from 18 months of working in an environment I didn’t like, in a state, I didn’t like and for bosses, I didn’t respect.
My personal life started to become attuned to escaping to a nice comfortable place. I started to become more and more like an average, fat, lazy person that idolizes TV stars and craves more distractions that take them away from their own mediocre existence.
I was weak and I no longer respected myself. Since my view of myself is closely tied to my successes and my performance, this became a real problem, real quick.
After moving to the Golden State with a better work environment, I decided I needed to step it up. I wanted to reshape my life, change my habits, and reset my mindset into one that is constantly seeking more. I wanted to become the knowledge chasing, steel-bending, mind-altering self that I know exists in me.
I wanted to explore my curious self, the part of me that is constantly reflecting and searching; observing and critiquing. This is the part of myself that enables my success.
Around this time I discovered the site Bold & Determined. This site opened me up to the possibilities of what the mind and body can achieve through persistence daily habits.
Here is a quote from one of his books on discipline:
30 Days of Discipline is how you master your mind. Once you master your mind, everything else follows. You eliminate the bad habits that lead to laziness, sloth and gluttony and you replace those with habits that encourage success.
I started to aim for to achieve small, incremental changes and saw that the compounding effect of these changes trump anything else that attempts at the change I have made in the past.
Habit and routine are the cornerstones of success. No highly successful man got to the top by mere chance and haphazard, sporadic actions- only through steady habit and daily activities do we cultivate self-mastery and achieve our goals. Forming a bad habit or routine is a matter of discipline. You’ve got to have the discipline to turn a “want-to” into a daily habit. You’ve got to turn bad habits or no habits into good and productive habits. You have to become not just a new man, but also a better man. The little habits make all the difference. – Victor Pride
I began with a few tweaks in my life, small but also difficult. Great results won’t come from mediocre efforts.
1. For 30 days I did not snack.
Why was this habit hard for me? Because I was often snacking and being fat. I snacked on nuts because I reasoned that they were healthier than other snacks. I snacked on protein bars because I believed they would help keep me “satiated” till my next meal (which was often 10 minutes after the snack because snacking promotes eating, which makes you hungrier). Once I implemented this habit, I no longer wanted or desired snacks. I don’t even think about eating as much as I used to. I now look at people snacking and feel slightly disgusted at their obvious snacking addiction. Just look around, there are fat people snacking everywhere.
2. For 30 days I took a cold shower every morning.
I hate the cold and despise cold showers even more. I made it a goal to take at least one cold shower a day. I have to say that the one shower I took worked as prescribed. My senses were heightened. I was ready to go out and conquer the world.
3. For 30 days I did not masturbate.
This is a tough habit. We do not think about the effects of masturbation but it robs men of their manliness. By stopping, you are relighting an internal flame. Besides, what do women prefer? A man that is out and on the go or one that is slouched over his computer screen, drained and emotionless.
Additionally, I didn’t eat breakfast and paid close attention to the quality of the food that I ate. I mostly ate foods that were high in protein and fat and lots of vegetables. I still ate large lunches and dinners and just ate without being overly critical. I didn’t have to count calories or weigh my food. I just focused on good quality foods and two meals a day with no snacking. Simple and effective.
My mindset changed. My body changed.
But most importantly, my outlook changed. Short, intense challenges like these are not the cure all for man’s fall to mediocrity but they can show you what you are capable of.
The key here is to keep going and to commit the long haul. Greatness takes time.
This idea clashes with our thoughts on character.
When you do things every day that you don’t like, your resolve to do other things strengthens.
Character shapes you into who are you destined to be and this momentum is hard to stop.
J. R. Cambo